I COULD BE CONTENTED, I DON'T NEED TO SUFFER




From cradle to grave, most men  in the west are socialized to view personal sacrifice as the epitome of highest virtue when it comes to relational values with modern western women. He is taught through various avenues such as media, TV shows, movies, literature, folk tales, relationship gurus, talk show hosts, panelists, and feminists academics, feminists actresses, feminist teachers and numerous other cultural philosophies that the measure of his "goodness," is in direct proportion to his willingness to sacrifice for society and more explicitly for the sake of western woman. He is socialized to equate his sense of worthiness in terms of what he can give and at the extremes, what he can sacrifice, the ultimate sacrifice being his very one and only life. On and on throughout a modern western man's life, he is compelled as a condition of moral obligation to tie his sense of self with an acceptance that he must be supremely selfless as a measure of ethical compass. Simultaneous to this, his added validation arrives in the form of refusing to expect or demand equitable repricosity from women, particularly women of the west. For instance, he may indeed take time out to assist a woman with a flat tire who is stranded on the side of the road in the middle of winter. He may put forth the required physical effort involved with changing her flat tire, but the convention of good manners impose that he must refuse any and all offers of remuneration, because, well, that would threaten to dispel the sincerity of his previous assistance.His motives must remain, in the eyes of a modern western women, pure, there can be no inference  from him that suggests something, however deserved and reasonable for his service. That is to say, in refusing to accept or ask for remuneration he is communicating that his help is derived from an expression of high chivalry, or to put it in modern terms, his giving something and accepting nothing in exchange is an observable example that he cares about women, at least on that particular day.

For the next day he must set out to prove he cares again, and the next day and the day afterwards, on and on ad infinitum.  And the single day on which should care is lacking, the singular moment will out-measure all the accumulated days, weeks and years from whence his care proved the overriding preoccupation of his existence will count for less than nothing. A perfect track record of sacrifice need only one lapse and the entire judgement of his character is rendered with the harshest indictment by modern western woman. He can rarely receive forgiveness and any future on which the relationship is maintained with her, must of course come with his appeal for a second chance, a second chance accompanied by a stream of promises for the kind of emotional, psychical and yes monetary expenditure of which she is to be the exclusive recipient. If one needs evidence of this rather well worn narrative, it can be found in the bulk of narratives supplied from nearly every genre of cinema, plays, books and relationship advice given by academic con artists, who believe their field of expert charlatanism, under the childish guise of clinical sociologist manifests concrete solutions for the poor western man who lapses in his faith from social relationship orthodoxy.

The reality is, from cradle to grave the principle philosophy imposed as critical dogma for men is the philosophy of  sacrifice. Even the demarcation of what is considered a "good man" and "bad man" is easily drawn within distinctions whereupon the "good man" is obviously "good" on the basis that he must be willing to surrender his sense of individual self-worth and in an necessary extreme throw away his one and only life at the behest of modern western woman. Any lesser extreme will invariably involve levels of personal sacrifice of ideals, beliefs, principles, objects, activities, and even friendships to qualify and maintain her romantic attentions, potential or otherwise. No habits of satisfaction for him can be allowed to remain unless that habit or activity viscerally results in a major benefit for her, usually more than he. Western cinema is filled with narrative tropes and cliches that illuminate several instances where the male character or characters must depart with something meaningful to him to gain a female character's affection. He must enter into a nightmarish often humiliating and debasing series of mostly rigged trials and tribulations that the narrative informs us is necessary for his "growth" to be worthy of her love. In comedies, the male protagonist must depart from an entire lifestyle deemed irresponsible and childish. In other words, his life is constructed to reflect any number of infantile preoccupations, drinking and getting drunk, living at home with parents, indulging the life of a slacker, playing video games and behaving irreverently to serious social and political realities and of course the extreme sexism that reduces virtually every encounter with a beautiful woman to a comedy of bad manners and inappropriate remarks accompanied by rude gestures and badly thought out gestures meant to convey the innate character of the male identity that can only be "fixed" when the protagonist wises up and abandons all ideas of individual male identity and allow himself to be reshaped into the appropriate appliance of selfless deferential animal whose only guiding philosophical aim is to serve the interests of a female character with complete fidelity that he must be willing to die for her. This is generally the same in action movies. The adventuresome protagonist must relinquish the life of a loner, that is, he must learn to place the value of a female character, or characters above his own, and he must also be willing to adopt the occupation of protector whereupon he enters a series of increasingly challenging risky scenarios where it isn't uncommon for him to endure torture, injury and the loss of other male allies to ensure the safety of female characters who mostly exhibit open hostility and ingratitude for his efforts. Worse still is that in many action movies a man surrenders himself to a western female character who then proceeds to utilize him as a lethal weapon against other men. He thus becomes an instrument by which she can accomplish a multitude of proxy killings. Entire legions of male antagonists are mowed down with indifference  for her sake to satisfy the requirements of  the archetypal "hero."

Films within the drama genre will almost always feature the male protagonists as a man in some sort of identity crisis that can only be resolved when he accepts a conviction that he is "nothing" without her. The empty void filled with different variations of self-destructive tendencies to escape some sort of confrontation with whatever unpleasant existential  truth is shown to find its preferred resolution with the so-called "right women" who has magical capabilities by which he is able to find meaning in living, and of course the meaning for living is frequently expressed with an admission that she is the meaning of life and the course or his life must become devoted to living at the mindless service of that which becomes the source of his secular religion of unshakable faith.

So now I draw  your attention to a consistent pattern within every genre of cinema and media, under no circumstance is the female character required to sacrifice anything. You will not find within an of the aforementioned cinematic examples a regular plot device where it is she who must sacrifice, or offer up her life for the love of a man. generally speaking, the majority of western cinema does not require the female protagonist to undergo any sort of  discomfiting ritual or trial by fire to obtain the affections of a male protagonists. At no point does she arrive at a crossroads where she must choose against her friends, hobbies, preferred occupations habits or personal beliefs. On the rare cinematic occasions where such instances suggest she choose the male character at the expense of the aforementioned personal preferences, the narrative mainly features her rejecting the male character and maintaining her previous preferences under the narrative paradigm of maintaining her "independence." He wasn't the right one, he was too controlling, he was selfish, he wanted to  change what is unique in you, are some of the frequent variations on the theme to justify her decision to remain free.So the dynamic is, he must surrender his freedom and independence or be labeled selfish and infantile. But she does not have to and when she surrenders nothing, she acquires the label strong and independent.

Given that many of these patterns evolved from social constructs developed by feminists to easily explain male behavior, or at least their interpretation of male identity, a characterization was further developed that put forth the least sympathetic notion about the value of men's lives. He must prove himself against the unsympathetic notion, which is he must fully abandon an individual male identity and in the preferred view articulated by more than enough feminist, adopt a feminine mindset, which in various ways they believe with complete conviction is the absolute solution to all social, political. ethnic and economic problems.

This is not so unlikely as it may appear on first glance when one takes into consideration an entire social, political, economic and gender reduced to extreme simplifications utilizing a process of praise or condemnation in wholly absolutist terms. A man siting on a subway with legs spread is an act of misogyny perpetuated by a patriarchy, jokes unapproved by feminists is misogyny, a man disagreeing with a women is misogyny, The act of seeing from a man, particularly when observing a woman is sexist and misogynist because in the psychic conviction of feminists they know precisely what is on every man's mind when a woman crosses his line of vision. Complexity and nuance never features in feminists discourse when they speak about men and male identity. Only women suffer, only women are oppressed, along with gays and trans, and whatever suffering men endure is either deserved and a product of entertainment to feminists who gorge themselves in revenge fantasies where emasculation, torture, and sadistic forms of mental, material and sexual destruction of men is a source of  advocated desire in fiction and non-fiction. So is it any wonder that the only avenue remaining for men to appease their feminist masters is to 1. embrace mindless unrewarding sacrifice, 2. work with feminists to throw other men under the bus, 3. exist in mindless deference to western women at their expense across the board and 4. devalue their own existence by allowing feminists to determine for them what validates his identity.

One of the many reasons why feminists detest MGTOW as much as they do, is chiefly because, MGTOW do not rely of western women and feminists to validate their lives. Another reason is because MGTOWs refuse to prioritize deference to western women at their expense with no hope of even a particle of reasonable reciprocity. This leads to a real problem for feminists who depend upon men's complete affection for western women. Without the total affection of some men, means a greater diminshment of exploitation by which western women use, deceive, manipulate and later discard men as disposable resources of utility. It signals the potential end of the free ride for which, so far not even the long stream of emasculating shaming tactics no longer is effective. That there are some men who regard their existence with worth and value is an initial step towards a form of physical, and psychological liberation. Thus, the true end result leading to MGTOW lives is a life that upon observation, exhibits a remarkable improvement in the lives of men who no longer prioritize women's issues, nor places himself in unnecessary relationships with western women. His personal happiness  within reason is actually more likely with extremely limited interactions with western women. Certainly no marriage and certainly no children under terms he cannot completely control.

In future posts, I'll speak about the benefits of a new MGTOW lifestyle.